Perfect Marriage, Imperfect Spouse!

My husband and I got married relatively quickly, seven months from the time we met to be exact. When we met, we were both searching, not for someone to hang out with, but rather a life partner. We were purposeful while dating in considering if the person we were dating could become our spouse.

We never thought that we could Find the Perfect Marriage, Through An Imperfect Spouse!

We were blessed to experience a wonderful courtship and shortly after God blessed our wedding day.

Then came the days and weeks after. If I’m truthful, there were moments that we both wondered if we had made a mistake. Neither one of us married someone that was perfect!  We both came with flaws and baggage. Some known and some not known. As we began to navigate being married, we realized that this was going to take a lot of work and a lot of prayer.

During our first argument, over how to pick out a mattress, (Not one of my finest moment) I called home and declared to my BFF that I was coming home, and I needed her to pick me up from the greyhound station. Her words rocked me to my core. “Has he cheated on you or hit you?”  I answered “No.” Her response was “As much as I miss you, unless he’s done something like that I will not pick you up. You will stay where you are, pray and work it out.”  I wanted to scream, but I knew her words were true.

As hard and challenging as marriage can be, it brings us closer to God in ways we could never imagine. It’s a mirror that gives us a true reflection of ourselves. We get to see the beautiful and the ugly. The selfishness and pride. Sometimes that little child that is still within us, who longs to get his or her way emerges during unexpected moments.

Yet, in the midst of everything, we see ourselves becoming more like Christ when we endure the frustrations by drawing close to Him.

So today, I desire to encourage and remind you of a few things. None of us are perfect, and none of us married a perfect spouse.  We have to determine within our hearts that we will work it out with our spouse, whatever our IT may be, in prayer.  For those who are single, find out as much as you can but recognize that there is always more that you will find out later. For those who are married, in a traditional or blended family, and are pulling back the layers of your spouse, remember that you married an imperfect individual but know that we serve a perfect God who has begun a good work in your spouse and He is faithful to complete it.  

Phil 1:6 “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”