Step Children Archives - Better Than Blended

In my teenage years and through college, I had a pretty clear vision for what my first home was going to be. I was imagining a small apartment or a little townhouse, something in a big bustling city with very little square footage. What I was not expecting was a 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom house partially attached to a restaurant in a part of Pennsylvania that I had never visited let alone wanted to live in. Oh, and to make matters worse, it was the house my husband shared with his ex-wife and their children. Talk about an interesting start to marriage and my new family.

Loving the “Un-Loveable” Through Divorce and Custody

Apr 13, 2018 | (4) April, Blending, Custody, Divorce, Step Children, Stepmom | 0 |

My first experience as a mom was when I became a step-mom!

When I married my husband, I became a step-mother to three children. During that time in our lives, custody was a scary subject. Both sides of the divorce were still living in chaos, trying to pursue healing, and create a new normal. It definitely took a toll on the kids. The greatest heartbreak, in my opinion, was the 2 1/2-year-old that was stuck in the middle. She had no idea what it was like to have both parents living under the same roof and, to her, chaos was a normal part of life.

Stepkids Are Not Accidents

Apr 11, 2018 | (4) April, Co-Parenting, Custody, Divorce, Family, Husbands, Marriage, Ours Baby, Step Children, StepDad, Stepmom, Wives | 0 |

When I first joined the family, my stepdaughter shared with me that she was “an accident.” As a believer, I am acutely aware that our words have the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21). I realized that she must have overheard an adult conversation, and it hurt to know that these words were spoken over her.

Can You Really Love Everybody The Same?

Apr 2, 2018 | Blending, Family, Husbands, Marriage, Step Children, Stepmom | 0 |

What is love? No, I’m not referring to the song by Haddaway from the 90s. I’m talking about...

Can We Have A Custody Re-do?

Mar 14, 2018 | (3) March, Blending, Co-Parenting, Custody, Divorce, Marriage, Prayer, Step Children, Stepmom, Wives | 0 |

As of today, we are coming up on three years of custody stuff, and I finally feel like I’m allowing myself to begin the healing process. Oh, if only I could do it over again with what I am learning now, things would be much different. If you find yourself along for a similar ride, let me give you a few helpful ways to cope with a custody battle, that I learned after the fact:

Lessons Learned in the Court Battle

Mar 4, 2018 | Co-Parenting, Custody, Prayer, Step Children, Stepmom | 0 |

My stepson is a Leukemia survivor, and within a few months of being diagnosed, the Make-A-Wish Foundation awarded him a trip to see “real” castles in England. Naturally, we wanted his big sister to share this once in a lifetime experience, and my husband approached her mom (different mom than my stepson) about getting my stepdaughter a passport. She refused to give permission for the passport or the trip, and we sought the help of a lawyer.

Exciting Guest Podcast and More!

Mar 2, 2018 | Blending, Co-Parenting, Family, Husbands, Marriage, Ours Baby, Podcast, Prayer, Step Children, StepDad, Stepmom, Wives | 0 |

Did you know that we were featured on Chrystal Evans Hurst podcast, “Chrystal’s Chronicles”, last week? What were we talking about? Blended Families of course! Founder, Rachel G. Scott, had the opportunity to share wisdom, insight, and resources on Chrystal’s Chronicles podcast.

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Feb 28, 2018 | Co-Parenting, Family, Step Children, Stepmom | 3 |

Co-parenting has been the biggest challenge I’ve ever faced. I’ve tried it from many angles. Most...

The Four Rs: Tips To Help When Your Children Struggle with Divorce

Feb 21, 2018 | Co-Parenting, Family, Marriage, Prayer, Step Children, Stepmom | 0 |

Our girls were young when we got divorced. So young that at this point (six plus years later), I don’t think they even remember me being with their father unless they see pictures. However, there are times in which they reminisce and say they wish we were still together. I’m guessing that’s pretty normal.

How Step Parents can Learn to Love Bio Parents

Feb 19, 2018 | Co-Parenting, Divorce, Family, Husbands, Step Children, Stepmom, Wives | 0 |

It’s easy to argue the benefits of loving your spouse and your stepchildren. It’s harder to argue the benefits of loving your spouse’s ex. Whether he or she is friendly or hostile, it’s certainly easiest to pretend they don’t exist.

Why Its Important to Date Our Kids and Ideas to Get you Started

Feb 17, 2018 | Adoption, Death and Loss, Family, Step Children, Stepmom | 0 |

Nearly two years ago I took a vow in front of friends and family to love and respect my husband,...

It’s all in the details

Feb 14, 2018 | Family, Family Traditions, Step Children, Stepmom | 0 |

Cody likes ketchup on one side of his sandwich, mayonnaise on the other. AJ like barbecue sauce...

What Parenting a Teenager has Taught Me as a Stepdad

Feb 12, 2018 | Family, Marriage, Step Children, StepDad | 1 |

Spoiler alert, raising a teenager is understandably known as a painstaking experience. For a parent who has never had a child before, like myself, the teenage years can be overwhelming. The child may often be quick to remind you that you are not their parent and your spouse may even run to their defense during times of conflict. One minute you and your spouse are on the same page, the next minute you are in the hot seat. This is a sensitive and precarious time.